Discussions of the day

Do you believe in the Empty Nest Syndrome many parents feel when their kids leave home? Or do you think it is a made-up syndrome, as my friend told me. I have recently experienced my last child leaving home-leaving my house empty, and I experienced 'empty nest syndrome'. I was unprepared for the amount of depression I experienced in a childless home after being a single mom for years. I believe in the empty nest syndrome - what about you - is it real or fake?
Lachelle B
Our oldest (22) still lives with me to make sure I'm ok as their dad passed this year. I'm currently building off grid to be alone. I spent many years looking after everyone and now it's time to look after myself. It's not a sad time, but a new journey. And if they want to come back I'll happily build a house for them........far away at the other end of the property! \ud83e\udd23
Sep 17, 24

My question is: if your partner cheated on you and you decided to give the relationship another try, would you still live with them? How would you feel? Would you completely forgive and forget? Would you be able to trust your partner like you used to?
writerrochelle
According to the Bible, adultery is grounds for divorce but, if you choose not to divorce (if you're married), it will take time living together to regain trust, and must be earned by your mate. You will have a multitude of feeling to deal with. You should be forgiving their error, but you will never forget. If you're not married, why put up with this behavior? You shouldn't be living together anyway because you are both committing fornication! ;-(
Aug 02, 24

I am calling it a deep cleaning of my house. I am getting rid of anything I have acquired over the 20 years living here, donating to worthy causes, and making my house easier to clean at the same time. Likewise, I wondered, what do others think of this idea?
Buttonpops
I'm attempting to do this too. We have such a small house and often trip over things left on the floor. We dont have any broom cupboards or linen cupboards or a garage so things get stored inside.
Aug 15, 24

In our Advertising...here on Rewardia and on TV and elsewhere...you will see a lot of heavily overweight models in skimpy clothes or in their underwear...some with missing limbs...and this is a celebration of our diversity...and how we should ALL be represented in advertising...a reflection of our society....OK...why are they ALL female?...ALL of them...where is the fat bald man in his underwear? The disabled male model?...why are they all well muscled...
jdoubleu
As a fat bald old man, you do NOT want to see me in my underwear but good on you for championing this.
Aug 01, 24

I can t say if it was better for everyone, but I CAN say that it was definitely MUCH better for me, at least! What are your thoughts? Do you think life was better in the past?
Pearlz
People had manners, they were polite and respected each other, there was no road rage and you hardly ever heard of domestic violence. you could go to bed and leave your windows open, and even your front door, most people were friendly, knew their neighbours and cared about them and even looked out for them. If you lent someone a dollar they paid you back and if a person gave you their word they lived up to it. We didn't have air-conditioning, coloured TV, a self parking car or microwave and we certainly didn't have the internet, ATM's, Facebook or Tic tok, but yes things were much better. You were swerved by a real person and if you phoned a business you weren't left hanging on with a droning voice telling you your call is important but no important enough to speak to you. More and more now I hear people say they preferred things when they were younger.
Jul 19, 24

My dream job as a child was to work in the vet department. Never thought I'd get there but qualifying as a vet assistant. What was your dream job?
IdentifyAs
I always wanted to be a Mum. In the process I have been a nurse, a psychologist, a teacher, a companion, a protector, a carer and so much more. It has been my greatest joy and sorrow, but I wouldn't have it any other way. It was just the ass I chose to be their father that was the problem.
May 16, 24

So I'm currently pregnant with my third and some of my in laws insist they stay with us during the labour and after to meet the baby. Even though I thought u made it quite clear that's not happening. What you suggest I do? Kick them out and tell them to get a motel? Haha
Rosemary E 383382
Is this your first baby or do you have others you need somebody to help with the care of them? Having visitors is tiring so you may need to set a time limit for everybody, unless maybe they offer to help with various household chores and you may be able to grab some rest while baby is asleep. I'm sure things like doing the washing would be helpful even better if you can sort it to the point of which room it goes in.............I would be grateful for casual help if it is a c-section as there is a lot of things you are not supposed to do......... That's when you need a granny flat to evict them to.
Apr 29, 24

For me, the answer is simple. Health is one of the most precious of human possessions, and serious illness one of life's most heartrending trials. What are your thoughts? What's most valuable to you?
Anne 1385855
I agree with most people.Health and Family are important and life is too short to have arguments and issues with people as you never now what is around the corner.Our family have just lost our 31 year old daughter in September 2023 after a 12 months battle with cancer.Now besides our own grieving we have to deal looking after her 9 year old daughter and trying to explain that mummy loved her and she will be watching over her always.Hugs your loved ones and tell them every day that you love them
Apr 08, 24

Be bold, but not too bold. Be smart, but don't be a showoff. Don't forget, you have to have a perfect shape and be well coiffed. What Gender-based social expectations do you know?
Jellypony
It amazes me now when it says sex there are so many options and once upon a time it was either male or female. Are we now going to have to have jails for all the others? Jails with no gender at all or does it go from what you were born as? Put in males that are now females or vice versa would be rather dangerous. It's more excepted these days too and people are choosing to raise their children as neither gender which I think can be confusing for every one especially the child. Why can't we just except what we are born as and be happy with that. There's always some one that wants change and can't be happy with what they have, it's so sad and it does destroy families which is even sadder again.
Mar 17, 24

Do you prefer to use the autocorrect feature on your cellular phone for spelling, or manually correct spelling errors instead?
Emma F 1171442
Manually - I\u2019ve sometimes just let autocorrect go without rereading and have sent people some shocking swear words!
Feb 24, 24

Did you know in 2021 an italian ''artist'' sold an invisible statue for 15,000 euros? As you heard. The piece was literally a square of american tape stuck in the floor to remark the place where the statue was. But this is not the first time that this man did this. And he is planning to put seven invisible statues of his own all around the world cities. What do you think about this? Is this art? Is art really just a concept? You can sell a concept? Is this a real...
Uncle Peep (Robert F)
I wouldn't call it art, and I wouldn't call it a scam, after all, any buyers can see exactly what they're getting.
Feb 16, 24

If someone hurts or abuse animals I think they should be charged the same as if they hurt a person, pets are family too
Tippy
My answer is that the same thing should be done unto them as they did to the animal, and it should be made public so everyone knows what type of person they are!!
Jan 10, 24

Why does this world need to use two types of calendars? In 1582 the Pope introduced the Gregorian Calendar, as the old calendar was incorrect by not having an allowance of a leap year & by 11 minutes in a year short fall. This was called the Julian Calendar. If the old calendar is short by a day & minutes, why does it still allow to be operated? To me, in my opinion, it is so confusing when you have 2 of everything. Like 2 Xmases, 2 New Years, 2...
Neo
The answer to your question is religion.
Apart from the Greeks, all other Orthodox religion follows the old calendar for Christmas (the Greeks go with the Catholics on this one) but for Easter and New Year, all Orthodox religions follow the old calendar.
Imagine a world with no religion...easy if you try...no calendar to confuse us...no distorted facts to make you cry...
Jan 07, 24

Do you ever long for the past? A place, or a person? Maybe for a life never lived? Nostalgia is a deep yearning for our former selves, but is it healthy? What do you think dwelling on the past can mean for your present?
Gaza
As I'm getting to the end of my life, of course, I look back through my past. Things I did, people I've met and the things that maybe I should have done.
Oct 02, 23

We have had lots of Climate summits...and lots of promises and yet very little real change...can the rapid rise in the cost of fossil fuels finally break our total reliance on them?
77ccusmc
Maybe the attendees of the climate summits should not take private jets and limos. They could do it by a zoom call. It was good enough for our children. We can all do a little, I personally can’t afford an electric car, but if the millionaires in DC want to buy one for me I would gladly drive it.
Jun 05, 22

We wait so long to retire, but many then find they have nothing to do and lose their work contacts and daily banter. The pension is not much. So is retirement so great after all?
BLM
Speak for yourself :-))! My pension is 100% tax-free and the amount is 'quite' generous (and I get a 'quite' generous COLA - every four years - 4%). - and I have been retired for 25 years and counting. In addition, I get an alimony check from my ex-wife - every month since our divorce. Hence, my retirement is on the decadent and hedonistic level. Furthermore, I am a member of rewardia.com - I can't ask in all honesty ask for more (anyway not in good conscience) - LIFE IS GOOD! I will sheepishly admit my retirement is GREAT!
Oct 24, 23

Recently I went out and met an acquaintance. She hugged me and chatted with me and my friend. Then openly informed me she has a sore throat and a fever. I have been informed she is a nurse. She is aware I care for an elderly mother of 94 years of age yet showed no concern to the possibility of infecting me or my friend. I find this selfish. What is your opinion?
Morenita
And that\u2019s why I\u2019m not going to work today. I\u2019m sick and I don\u2019t want to get my seniors sick. Even if I need the money \ud83d\ude2d
Sep 28, 23

Early motor vehicles were powered by steam, and drivers needed to have somebody walk before the vehicle waving a flag, to warn others of impending danger. We have come a long way since then, and no longer need to waive those flags. Similarly, when Nuclear Energy was in its infancy there were risks and accidents, but whether you realise it or not, Nuclear Reactors are everywhere now - both on and deep down in every ocean, as well as in most major city...
Andrew C 287196
Nope! It's a massive disaster waiting to happen (as Russia found out, Japan nearly found out). It is also far more polluting then every other form of energy creation combined - nuclear waste takes millions, if not billions, of years to disappear and they have no idea what to actually do with it. There are no nuclear reactors in New Zealand and the government long ago banned nuclear-powered ships (including the US Navy) from even visiting here.
Jul 04, 23

I was pleased to see Victorian tax dollars of A$215 million going towards training nurses and midwifes. What a great idea. Of course provisos will be put into place to ensure these students when they graduate put in some years in hospitals etc. This is not ongoing but for just a number of them. Do you think all states should do this? What thoughts do others have on this idea.
Gypsy
When I trained as an EN (Enrolled Nurse) in the early 1990's I was paid for the entire year, whether it was a study day or a working on the ward day. As a newly divorced mother with 3 young children I could not have done it if I had to pay for it instead of being paid. Having hands on training is best for good patient care. Years later so many times young RN's would come onto the ward doing a 'placement' and they would complain about having to do some basic nursing task, they would say that they are supposed to be giving medications and taking blood for tests not making beds and emptying bed pans. They are just in the job for the money and the 'prestige'.
Jun 25, 23

At what age do you think is appropriate for youngsters to have their own (adult) personal computer, laptop, tablet (considering Parental Control)? My daughter got her first (adult) tablet when she turned 3 and then the first PC desktop when she was 6. All with parental control. She has limited screen time during the years. I noticed creativity, skills in using different applications and researches, projects, etc developed exponential during years. Now she has a...
Smiley
No tablets in our house. I don't see a use for them as we have phones and laptops that do everything needed.
Our kids get their first laptop when they start High School (about 12yrs of age) and they get their first mobile phone when they turn 16 years old.
We have parental controls on their school laptops and monitor their phones until they turn 18.
It is far to easy to get addicted to technology and cyberbullying is so very real so limiting social media and some games can keep our kids safe.
May 13, 23

Whether it was hot or cold or rainy or snowy, why did you love that holiday and for what reason?
Andrew C 287196
Staying at home ... it costs far less, I know where everything is, I can't "forget" anything, there aren't piles of tourists, ....
Apr 21, 23

From inputting your data and signing up for a phone plan to handing over your number to a real estate agent, our personal details are collected, stored and shared on a daily basis. What happens when that data is breached, and our identity is stolen. Is privacy even possible anymore?
WonkyandProud
From what I have heard on several podcasts, nothing is private anymore! It is a scary fact, and what is even more disturbing is the fact that people keep putting themselves in danger. Cell phones are a must when they don't need to be! Why don't people care? We lived without them just fine for centuries!!! Yes, they are convenient, but at what price? We accept any technology that is thrown at us, and we have no idea what the ramifications could be because we have no idea how they work! Those that do are speaking out, but no one is listening. Even when your devices are turned off, you are at threat! Where is this heading? There isn't much that the average person has to hide, so why track us? I think some of it is for merchandising and to monitor where we go and what places we frequent, but what about the government? I seem to have nothing they would be interested in so what do they want from us? That fact is scary! I hate cell phones because they have ruined our society. We can't even visit people without texting others while you are with them. To me, that is rude. If you want to talk and/or text to other people don't do it while you are spending time with me when I don't see you that often! Often times, people don't even hear what I say because they are on social media while they're here! Let's think about how unimportant that makes other people feel! Are those texts that important? I use a cell phone only because I travel alone and no one knows where I am. If I had an emergency, it could save my life. It isn't even turned on unless I need it! With all the crap that's going on, we need to get our heads in the places they need to be. Take care of your community. I love the Amish because they are there for their community and help each other out! They work hard, and we have become too lazy to even get up and turn the TV channel! Pathetic, aren't we? How are we going to handle what might be coming in this country? I wish I could say this on a public forum where it would be heard and make a difference. I know people are going to do what they are doing until they have no other choice and aren't prepared.
Mar 31, 23

One in four adults in the UK are currently living with obesity, a health risk highlighted by the Covid-19 pandemic. Why some people find it difficult to lose weight? Can you be overweight and stay healthy?
Lyn A.
Mostly depends on genes and diet as to what size your body is to be. Some can be well overweight with no health issues others just have health issue no matter their body size. If you do daily exercise and eat mostly healthy go with the flow, don't let all the hype get you down as that will create more health [both mental and physical] issues that being over weight
Mar 24, 23

Have you lost a loved one before? If so how long does it take before you can finally move on with your life? I lost my sister to suicide in september 2018. Coming up to 3 years since she passed. And a year ago on Xmas I wasn't quite ready to celebrate a Xmas yet. And still not. Because it's not the same without her. I was told by someone who was supposedly my friend that I'm being stupid and it's been over a year since she died and I should stop being so dramatic...
Leah
There is no time limit on grief. It takes as long as it takes. My mother died in 2014 and, while most of the time I'm fine, there are still moments when I'll just suddenly burst into tears. Mum lost twins seven years before I was born, yet she still got quiet, and a little down, when it would of been their birthday. I still see things when I'm in a store and think "Ooh, mum would love that", and then I remember.
Grief is a wound. It may scab over, even scar lightly, but it never fully heals. Sometimes it feels like it's forever since she died, other moments, it's like it was yesterday.
I find the run up to Mother's Day to be hard (not the day itself). All the advertising "Remember Mum this Mother's Day", I just want them to shut up. And the run up to Christmas... Both our birthdays are at the beginning of December (3 days apart), so that's hard. My uncle died 2 weeks ago, and his birthday is 2 days after Christmas, so this year is going to be hard.
My thoughts go out to all who are grieving.
Feb 28, 21

Growing up, I had great girl friendships. In high school, when we discussed boys we liked, we cheered on each other's hopes to date said boys we individually liked. But there was that one girl friend, who would go after every boy we liked. She was beautiful, and really fun to hang out with, but I'd say this was a big no-no in our sisters' club. I've always been loyal to my friends and just to women in general. From my mother, sisters and girlfriends growing up...
blunder boy
there are some things you just don't do,, like you wouldn't take a dog called [shark] to the beach, I guess some relationships are like algebra you look at your x and wonder y
Mar 09, 23

Do you believe if you were to perform just one unexpected random act of kindness towards anyone every single day, that it would improve the quality of your personal self-esteem and quality of life, in general? If you've done an unexpected kind act, could you share it?
Purple_Power
One day, not long after losing my favourite cat, and still paying off a big vet bill, a lady paid for my order at a McDonalds drive through. So now, every so often I pay for the car behind me.
Feb 12, 23

Opinion is meant to be a personal expression, not intended to offend or influence, and does not deserve criticism but acceptance. But with the "cancel" mindset, why are we using opinion to push a thought or start a hate discussion?
Pearlz
Cancel culture doesn't permit an opinion, you must agree with them. I always study and make myself aware of the facts before I make up my mind and form an opinion.
Jun 13, 22

The middle class was once a symbol of the American dream. It meant financial security and an opportunity for a better future. But that portrait of the American middle class is quite different today. A survey in 2018 found that a third of middle-income adults don t have as much as $400 to cover an unexpected expense. And while the middle-class lifestyle grows more expensive and uncertain, it s also moving beyond the reach of younger generations. Do you think the...
Bugalugs
The "Middle Class" has already disappeared in Australia and it is entirely the fault of that same Middle Class!
Once, and it is not so long ago, a young couple were content to get a modest loan and buy a modest house and then, as time went by, gradually buy a better house to accommodate their family, leaving their older, more modest house for younger people so that they, too, could start achieving the Great Australian Dream: A Home of their own.
Then a New God, with absolutely nothing to do with religion reared it's evil head.
Its name is GREED.
No longer were those starting out content with that modest, affordable house. They wanted the Biggest House they could find.
It was reported recently that Australia is building the Biggest House in the World.
Not only do these younger people want the Biggest, Most Expensive houses they also want to have everything which opens and shuts and, preferably, without them having to lift a finger as it is all programmed, the lights come on so that the house is ablaze with lights when they get home, the Aircon is left on all day, the pool is ready, the garage is big enough to hold 2, 3 or 4 Range Rovers, Lexus, Mercedes and the children are returned by their ersatz parents to the parents who bred them. Every child Must have her/his own bedroom - no sharing.
Jan 09, 23

Although farming generally isn't entirely environmentally friendly, is it as bad as the media portrays? Have you done your research? Have you weighed up the environmental impacts of farming vs cities? Most farmers, especially in New Zealand, care about the environment and animals and feel misunderstood by people who don't understand what we try to do for the environment or how much we care about the land. What have you heard about farming? What do you think about it?
Travel
Farming is an ancient and noble profession. David was a shepherd and Jesus was a figurative shepherd.
Oct 31, 22

Many of us submit a topic for Daily Discussions, in hope of receiving the 1000 points added to our points balances. I'd like to know, what about submitting a topic for Daily Polls? Would anyone like to have this for an option? And, if so, how many points would you think it should be worth once it is approved by Rewardia's Staff?
BLM
I would prefer rewardia. com increase the amount of points and/or reward amounts for participating - right now - 2000 points equals $1 and you need 10,000 points to cashout!
Mar 14, 21

I think most people have a Hobby a Passion or topic that once you get started.... could just keep talking for hours. What's your thing or things? For me, it's Mercy Ships and similar other organisations, I just go on and on for ages. I'm sure it annoys people, but oh well.
APB
I complain a lot about how Rewardia continues to cut down on points all the time..and how it gets harder and harder to just get 50000 points...does that count?
Oct 25, 22

I have recently become disabled with arthritis in my knees, back and most other spots. I walk with a walker and probably not far from being wheelchair bound. I am grossly overweight now I have found out that most places of business have sitting chairs with arm rests on them. So disabled people have problems sliding onto a chair with arms, let alone an obese disabled person. Sitting on a walker is not comfortable, and I think not meant to be for a long time. I have often...
mary c
I try to do a pre check of any place i am going with hubby. He drives a power chair-he only has minimal use of thumb and forefinger in left hand so has a joystick control. But boy does he plough his way through a shop and if something is in the way the chair will get through...he doesn't care if his presence is made known. I hate scenes so run ahead making way. Can be v stressful. Some shops are so cluttered and aisles tiny..it sucks and makes me so mad. Esp shops such as 2$ shops- where we would like to go since we no longer have money- but they are terrible for w/chairs and walkers etc. Have complained to Mall but they said it was the shop owners responsibility. Sigh. We don't have an issue with seats as hubby has his w/chair at least. And if a seat is in the way at a cafe table he will nudge it out of the way with his w/chair. Going out is quite nerve-wracking. We never go into our previously loved 2nd hand shops- too cramped and crowded- and he drove out once with a clothesrack accidentally attached to the back of his headrest..sounds funny now but not at the time. Also he rammed into a giftcard carousel on purpose after the shop owner (another 2$ shop) told him off for accidentally knocking something in the over crowded store. He backed up his chair like a bull and started driving towards it..i knew he couldn't be stopped and i hid around the corner.
Oct 14, 22

I have changed my habit of spending money since the COVID-19 occurred. Life cost has become too high, and that makes me wonder how to save money and plan for my future. I go to Avondale Sunday market to buy eggs, vegetables and fruits instead of going to the supermarket. Has your money spend habit changed? And how do you manage to save money in daily life. Welcome to share your good ideas. Thank you
JP
I have become more "Aussie" aware when purchasing food etc. I make a point of always buying Australian produce as I really feel that we have to support our local farmers, producers, retailers etc. I appreciate that this comes at a price is regard to cost and if you are a family with kids this might not always be possible. Buying Australian supports Australia and provides jobs, opportunities and wealth to Australians. The changing economic climate is putting strain on the household budget but hopefully early next year things will start to settle down with the economy. My spending habits have only changed in that UI am even more determined to support Australian businesses where I can.
Aug 23, 22

Do you think in this day and age an "education" is the ticket to a better paying job? Or does your life experience (what you know) and who you know get you that better paying career?
APB
This may be an American problem...I am not sure...should the only reason for your career be that it is "better paying"....I hope that at least some people devote most of their entire lives to a career that involves something they love and care about...or something that is vitally important or makes everyone else's world a better place...we can all make very important contributions and these should never be devalued
Aug 15, 22

Laying in the sun for 10 -15 minutes a day is the best way to get enough. When ultraviolet rays hit your skin, that light triggers the production of vitamin D. Skin cancer should not be a risk for 2 to 3 times a week between 10 and 3 p.m. I have Irish heritage, so I am guilty of avoiding the sun. Some symptoms of vitamin D deficiency can include muscle weakness, pain, fatigue and depression. I just read a recent report stating there is now a connection with...
IdentifyAs
Yes it has been another scare campaign with being out in the sun. I have very fair skin and turn into a lobster in half an hour.So I avoid the sun, go out early morning or late afternoon. I won't use sun screen, it's just another chemical. I do take vitamin D supplements on a daily basis. I've stopped listen to the news, it's just a bunch of articles that are geared to make people panic. I'm sick of being told how to live, what to eat, when to fart...to hell with it all.
Jul 24, 22

Do you think education be free? Well I think yes, it is because that it will encourage kids to do more education related things (like maths and English). Also, parents don't have to spend money in order for their child to learn. Education is important for kids. What do you think?
Grommie
isn't just corny how people think things are free !!!!! The government pays, which means it's you and I who pay. There ain't no such thing as a free lunch.
If you think education is expensive, try ignorance... but that's another whole subject
Jul 14, 22

At least 200 years or so ago...most of the radical technology...most of the restructuring of how the entire planet operated...was mainly in the hands of private enterprise...gifted madmen...and pirates...the various Governments struggled to keep up....and here we are again...mad billionaires...huge corporations governments being totally useless... Elon Musk re-established the Ukraine internet after 3 hours of Russian attack...now thousands of people are going over the...
Pato Lo Duck
That’s what happens when you let wankers into power.. For God’s sake, We have had Humpty Dumpty Trumpty, a mad Russian Kleptocrat and that fool down in Brazil, not to mention Xi (wants to rule the world) and the recently irrelevant Scomo to keep us safe, now a Marcos is back in power in the Philippines telling everybody the sun shines out of his arse (his father stole USD 13 billion from that country-most of it never recovered)… and I haven’t even mentioned the bankers and various mafia ( and yes I mentioned them in the same sentence deliberately) that are out to steal every penny from the poor that they can get their hands on.. But after a few double strength home brews I conclude that as long as my glass is not empty, the world is a wonderful place…
Jun 12, 22

When visiting my new dentist recently, I thought how clever of them to hand me a piece of paper covered in a plastic sleeve clipped to a clipboard with a whiteboard marker to write out my details. The plastic sleeve is wiped when the information is put to the computer - such a clever way to save paper and emissions. Do feel there is a mad scramble to reach our 2030 emissions target as per the Paris Agreement? Have you noticed anything that would equate to a...
Albal
What ever we do will not stop global warming! The earth is on an orbit in our solar system and has so far done 1% of this orbit which means our lifestyle is going to continue to change or die out as our universe expands and the planets move further away from each other. Governments wont tell their populations this as there would be worldwide panic. Our plants and animal life is dying out and we cannot stop it.Everyone conveniently forgets that we have had previous ice ages and the magnetic poles have also changed places throughout time. So for those who believe they can stop global warming go ahead and do your thing but it wont matter at all in the long term.
Jun 01, 22

When the person isn't terminally ill, but push the button to end their life. The person is just sick of life. At the moment, they have to go overseas to do it. For some reason I don't, but agree with euthanasia by intentionally ending life to relieve pain and suffering.
Sand
Just sick of life is not fair, Kaz. In many cases it is severe mental illness. Does a person suffering from severe depression for decades not have the right to die? In the recent case, the Australian man was 103 years old. He was not in good health. I feel strongly about this as I worked for a quadriplegic, named Jo Ann Dolan, when I was younger. She fought for the right to die and an article appeared in "The Age". We have no right to interfere. I am sick and tired and people saying "people will kill their family for money". Stop hiding behind this BS as some people face suffering that we would not allow on a dog. They have the right to die and it is not your or my business.
Jun 25, 21

I'm curious about your views on elite private schools for the young ones. What would you say are the pros and cons of sending children to elite private schools? Would you do so if money weren't an issue?
Christine M 323842
If you want your children spoon fed to get good yr 12 results, then watch them fall on their arses at uni send them to a Private School. Also it’s the place to get the A class drugs coz mumsie and daddy are all cashed up and too busy runnning their empires to care. Teachers who really want to make an impact are in the public system.
Oh…. And no more government funding. Pay for you elite little club all yourselves.
Dec 27, 21

At the moment we are all mostly at home. I try to walk each day. I have certain programs I like and most of the time on my computer. I might bake a cake another day I might vacuum. I frequently talk to family over skype. Talking with someone helps lift my mood. I try to talk to people while out it tends to help both of us even though brief. Usually dogs help. My dog is having the best time since I am mainly home. It is amazing how the boy makes me smile. The worst is for the...
Smiley
Quite a few years ago now, i noticed a neighbour's papers were still on the front lawn. He was an avid better, ex-jockey who loved to follow the horses and have a flutter. He never missed collecting his paper.
We notified the police who found him dead in his chair with the TV still on.
We hope he had a bet on a long shot and had won a large amount. We hoped he'd had a heart attack and died without pain due to the shock of winning. (We don't actually know how he died though.)
As for the current world situation.I have barely left the house for months now. There are too many self centered, selfish people living around here so going for walks in the neighbourhood or park does not leave me feeling safe due to other's behaviour.
I do not have skype nor zoom. I chat to friends most days by text/sms or online messenger services.
I have not had pets for over 20 years now and find that in itself very lonely.
I think it is important to stay in contact with neighbours, especially those who may not have access to family/friends or those who tend to not be very social.Even a little note in the letter box or a little posy of flowers from your garden left on their doorstep could brighten their day and make them feel not so lonely.
Sep 18, 21

While we in Australia wonder if we dare make any plans, I really want to travel again as my time on this Earth is running out. I especially want to return to Bali and get my little volunteer school up and running again and maybe one last trip to England where I was born. What dreams or plans do you have?
Jania S
I hate to be a party pooper, but people better turn off the programming box, and stupida fona. Out of 45 countries who have had FOI requests not one has isolated CV19, that includes USA, AUST, UK, etc. there is yearly flu. LOCKDOWN WILL only end when people get and education and realise you have been HAD, The "ALIENS" have made the yearly flu into a non existant CV19 as described. OBVIOUSLY about 50% of world dont know they have an immune system that has protected the world for centuries, and is still protecting .... If you check Sweden no lockdown, treated population as adults and no VAX no more sickness than any other year, ISRAHELL is onto 4th booster shot.
CHECK with the website of all the supposed vax manufacturers and find they only make gene editing experiments.
THEN WEEP for the lost 18+ months, because the WESTERN countries will go to the grave getting booster shots every year if not more often, and the human will end up and a trans??? whatever the WEF, WHO, and UN SUSTAINABLE Development DEMONS whant to do to you.
Sep 08, 21

I was listening to early morning talk-back radio on the ABC. The presenter mentioned that Queensland has a Major issue with Violence towards Schoolteachers. Some people were calling the radio station to express their views. A couple were former teachers. Violence was experienced by them, by students. It seems today kids just get away with too much at schools. Should the Educational Departments ban kids who are Violent? What sort of punishment do you...
Grandma
Sadly since discipline was ruled a no-no by the politically correct part of society children and youths seem to do what they like, when they like, to whoever they like. Townsville has an enormous youth crime problem and I am sure it is because the kids have no concerns that they will be punished even for serious crimes.
Aug 30, 21

Before I retired, a couple of people in my company retired before me ... and both promptly died ... people say it s your job, it s your life, it is important to keep busy/find a hobby (what?...or you will die?) I put on a little weight slept in a lot ... very happy, really content ... but steadily getting weaker just getting old? I've seen the old guys feeding the ducks in the park stuff that! I'm now exercising for well over an hour a day ... and I can feel my strength and...
Pilgrim 70
Physically, things are not wonderful. The immobility and pain of arthritis must be felt to be believed. However, mentally, I feel so wise and grounded: an unerring sense of what matters more, what matters less and what matters not at all. Emotionally, I Iike being free of the stresses of the workplace, the tyranny of the power structure and its expectations. My time is largely my own and I revel in the liberty of it all. I have not been this relaxed and happy in decades!
Aug 11, 21

Do you think the pension should be increased? have you ever witnessed an older person who is shopping for food and can't afford it so they buy a can of baked beans instead of meat and veg
JoeB
Yes, a little bit. The pension is enough to survive on but not much else. I think society does not properly respect what a lifetime is, nor does it respect the value of the volunteer work that many of the retirees do.
Jan 22, 21

In some area's of Australia, esp the bigger city's, rental prices are now increasingly getting much worse. Our Pollies are sitting on their hands doing nothing about it. I believe rental prices should be really ...capped!. During Covid-19 last year, there was a moratorium on rental prices, for awhile, but we still have covid in Australia, so cap the rent! What do you say?
Frank N
We need policies that put dollars into the pockets of people who cannot afford to buy their own home, so they have the money to do so. That way there would be little need for rentals, or for social housing either. My suggestion is to pay everyone a basic living wage (not means tested).
Jul 28, 21

COVID vaccines necessary before travelling within Australia (US, wherever), and same to enter Australia ... Without quarantine before leaving the states or countries. What do you think?
darsol
personally i think its a waste of time,i read a coulpe of weeks ago our PM said once international borders are down when we are all vaccinated,and all travellers coming are vaccinated to expect 1000 cases per week,we have never had 1000 cases per week before,so does this vaccine work or not? apparantly it only lessons the symptoms if you do get it,allegedly
Apr 27, 21

It has only taken a few months, after Covid 19 swept the world, most of the people (who aren't in a war or just starving to death) to go rushing out into the streets and have mass combined protests and riots ... equal rights getting rid of a king/dictator...not being happy about other people telling them what to do...white supremacy black lives matter...not being happy with an election result (there are a lot of places that that is going on)..evil governments, police brutality...
Lachelle B
We've had pandemics before.....Spanish flu, the Plague, etc. It's social media that's making people crazy...... Have a camera aimed your way and all of a sudden your dumb idea or theory goes viral. Shut down social media and I think you'll shut down the crazies, the conspiracists and all those who have nothing better to do. Hell you never know, they might end up being...dare I say....a productive and contributing member of society or at least to their family.
Dec 15, 20

I believe Hospital parking should be free for all staff that work at that hospital & the 1st 2hrs should be free if you're visiting a sick person. These days parking at any hospital is getting out of reach especially if you have to go their daily for a while. With a very sick family member, you should be able to have a discount of some sort. It is so expensive that outsource are charging you to park on the hospital grounds. How do you feel that we should be able to have a grace...
Razz
Public Hospitals in Adelaide give discounted parking for visitors of a family member, but it is a 7 day pass no casual parking and you have to apply. Out patience get a parking permit if they apply, I think it would pay to ask what is available at your hospital.
Mar 26, 26

Is it me or does it seem that there seems to be more silly drivers on the road. Not looking, not doing the actual speed (way slower), can't stay within lanes.
Pearlz
Many drivers are driving on foreign licences from countries where the roads rules are different to ours. People in NSW are allowed to take their test in a language other than English. When I made a complaint about it I was told road signs are the same worldwide so it makes no difference. I disagree, the word DETOUR comes in English only, so if you can't read English you won't know what it means.
Mar 10, 26

Do you still enjoy reading a good book instead of listening to it on audiobook? There are so many books out there. Fiction, Non Fiction, Murder & Mystery, Biography, Spiritual, Self help etc. Do you have a favourite author? I enjoy true stories & ones that are romantic. Nicholas Sparks is one of my go-to authors, and I love curling up with a good book. How about you?
nobody
never tried an audiobook. Joined my local library at 5 years old and am still a member (of a different one) and avid reader at 69. Books are best and always will be imho
Feb 26, 26

How do I clean my house for Christmas? Would you have any tips for a speed clean?
merricat
I am not expecting any visitors for Christmas. so if anyone shows up, what they see is what they get.
Dec 20, 25

How long can you deep freezer food for? They say fish for one month. What the best things deep freezer and how long. Is better in fridge or deep freezer, is they even tips as well. Can cake be frozen or not.
Pato Lo Duck
Fish is difficult to assess, some fish get a bad taste after only a month or so and others seem to last for ever. I found a pack of seafood highlighter frozen in its original packaging in the bottom of my old freezer, that was 22 years old. I defrosted it and gave it a go, and it looked and tasted exactly the same as another one I had bought frozen from the supermarket still inside the use by date. You just have to experiment a bit to find what works. For instance bacon rashers get a funny taste after only a few months, but short cut bacon, without the fat lasts much longer before the taste changes.
Dec 11, 25

Higher qualifications used to result in better-paid jobs and long-term career development. How is it right now? Have you experienced the fall of 'higher' education around you?
Lachelle B
Half of my son's mates went to Uni and have a lot of debt and no job. He got flack when he started at McDonald's (is now a manager earning good money). He has people with degrees working under him, their course fees would be a deposit on a house. And yes I'm proud of my son, now I just have to work on the other one....
Nov 30, 25

What are the best ways to avoid getting scammed? List 10 foolproof methods. When is the best time of day to avoid scam calls? Where do these calls usually come from?
Lachelle B
Don't answer unknown numbers. Back during Covid it was rife. I turned the tables on scammers trying to sell a cure, I said I had created a cure with Maori herbs yada yada. I was so convincing they were asking if I could send some and were giving me their details! Kept me entertained.
Nov 07, 25

It's a personal choice to book one in when buying a house (cost: $300-$1000 AUD) but are they worth it? I had a friend, needed to determine if he had termite & asbestos the P&B report said "no", sadly he later found out he had both. Other P&B inspectors overexaggerate petty issues just to cover themselves. Who's had similar stories?
Lachelle B
I have a building background so am the unofficial house inspector for family. A house is a long term investment so you need to check it out from a registered inspector (if they get it wrong, it's on them). It's like buying a car and going "she'll be right" instead of getting a mechanic to take a look.
Oct 24, 25

Why is it when you're serving a customer in any type of industry, that they seam that they are always right? I believe in many industries they choose to ignore what is actually correct, so they don't have to deal with rudeness, loudmouths, tempered customers. This is wrong, who ever invented that the customer is always right is actually wrong. Lots of customers use this situation for their advantages. Many customers are wrong in what they're saying, as it can be proven on...
helen 1703592
this saying was introduced to ensure staff were always courteous keeping customers happy ensures future business the saying may be wrong but it does keep things civil
Sep 24, 25

I resigned my job in March for health reasons and took a few months to sort them out. Now I am ready to go back to work on a part-time basis. I am so lucky that my partner and I can afford basic costs like rent, groceries and utilities on his income alone. But I really do want to go back to work so we can afford the nicer things in life again and put some money aside for savings. I've been finding it hard to find a suitable part-time job, though. I'm not fussy. If be perfectly...
APB
As you reach 50 there are a massive quantity of reasons that are given for not getting a position...I came second in at least 12 positions...to people less qualified...no-one believes that you just want the job...you are after their job...no-one wants to employ someone who might be smarter than them....its tough
Sep 26, 25

What are the best things about being married and the bad things about being married? Good thing is having someone to talk to. Bad thing is when someone changes the subject because they feel it s not for them. Is it better to be married or just living together?
Rodwings
Lived common law for 15 years till she passed from a heart attack in front of me. Other than my teens and early 20's, the best 15 years of my life.
Sep 01, 25

There is no universal answer for how much phone time is too much, but most health experts suggest limiting non-work screen time to under two hours per day for adults to reduce negative health effects like digital eye strain, poor sleep, and impacts on mental well-being. What are your thoughts? How much is too much time on the phone?
MIAO MIAO
Any explanation the difference between on-work and non-work screen time? My previous job was on-work screen time 9.5hrs each shift, 4 days week for over 18 years. Here I am \ud83e\udee3\ud83e\udd79\ud83e\udd23\ud83d\ude1d
Sep 14, 25

Is it ok for the public to go into shops and abuse the staff who are only doing their everyday job, especially when it comes to checking bags? My belief is that if you have nothing to hide, then what is the problem with having your bags checked? Swearing and calling the staff names is not necessary. If the staff are not helpful or are rude, then they should be reported to a supervisor or manager.
Deborah 1448385
The cost of increased shoplifting could easily put a smaller company out of business. Get your bag checked like a good boy or girl
Aug 23, 25

Many happy, long-term couples sleep separately and still maintain strong, loving relationships. The key isn't whether you share a bed it's whether you're prioritizing each other in other meaningful ways. What would you say? Do couples who sleep apart grow apart?
BLM
Do couples who sleep apart grow apart? NO! Love 'might be' blind, but it turns out sleep isn't (deaf)! Hence, couples are opening their 'eyes/ears' to the benefits of separate bedrooms! While the idea of sleeping a part may seem counterintuitive to some(couples). Still, couples are finding that sleeping in separate bedrooms can lead to more restful night's sleep and a happier marriage (or relationship).
Jul 24, 25

Children are staying home longer in their adult years, to leave for a bit then come back. We have charged rent as soon as they get jobs as well as make then help out around the house. BUT a lot of our friends seem to do none of this and think we are mean, doing it to our children. How does everyone else feel about this?
Lindy Lou
Absolutely agree with rent being paid when children get a job. No value of money is learnt when parents keep paying expenses for their children. Also chores should be undertaken to help around the house - parents are not slaves.
Jul 07, 25

Some sources suggest that we are the most productive within the first few hours after waking up, while other studies have found that peak productivity happens around lunchtime. This shows that some people can be productive right at the start of the day, but others need some time to dive into deep work. At what hour does productivity peak for you?
Andrew C 287196
Everybody is different ... some are early birds, some are night owls, and most a just normal daytime people. That's is simple common knowledge, and doesn't require any pointless, and expensive, studies that continually contradict each other.
There are also "studies" that "prove" growing kids' / teenagers' learning ability isn't as good early in the morning, so there is a theory that schools should start and finish later in the day, rather than 9:00am to 3:00pm / 3:30pm. BUT, some of those "studies" are more about trying to improve morning traffic congestion than actually anything to do with kids' learning ability.
May 16, 25

We've all heard about the school lunch saga happening around the country, with some questioning the quality of the meals. Since kids can be picky eaters, it raises the question - what makes a great school lunch? Let's not debate why times are tough and these kids need school lunches, let's brainstorm! Share your favourite lunches from your school days or the go-to meals your kids love! Perhaps we can come up with a menu of crowd-pleasing school lunches...
writerrochelle
I graduated in 1965! In my senior year dad gave me a $5 a week allowance. Lunches were 50 cents, so I spent $2.50 a week on food. My favorite lunches were the roast beef and gravy over mashed potatoes, or the oriental vegetables over rice! The other $2.50 went for shampoo, deodorant, toothpaste, soap (toiletries) because, since I had my own motel room (adjoining the manager's home/office), I had to buy my own things with my allowance. I even saved up and bought 3 paisley sack dresses (blue, green, brown) for $2 each! Did I ever get off the main subject! ;-D
May 02, 25

From what I've read recently, the general consensus seems to be that people can usually not recall memories before around 3 years old. With the earliest memories generally between the ages of 3 to 6 years. Obviously there would be a lot of factors that could influence whether memories are formed retained & recalled.eg trauma etc. My earliest memory is not super clear, but I recall being prevented from entering the loungeroom & being really frustrated that I couldn't...
Chosen
Yes I clearly remember sliding out of my mother's womb and then carefully being wrapped up in a lovely white sheet. Oh nothing like the old times.
Apr 09, 25

The research show no loss in productivity and better mental wellbeing. What would be your thoughts on four-day work week?
Classy Christy
If you had Monday or Friday off, it would be like having a long weekend all the time. In medical professions and teaching professions, that would be hard to implement. I don\u2019t think that a four day working week would work for everyone.
Feb 08, 25

As a elderly citizen I have seen a lot of change over the years, some good & some bad. I may be looking through rose colour glasses but I think the past was much better than the present & I am concerned what kind of world my grandchildren will grow up in.
lippy loo
I agree. We had better manners, we cared about our fellow citizens, we were more inclined to help others. These days it seems the people just want to rip everyone down. Social media, facebook etc. show how ugly society has become. Selfish, self indulgent people who care little about anybody but themselves and their opinions. I also think TV has not helped with these vapid shows like Batchelor/ette, Love Island, MAFS, Big Brother etc. which only want ratings so they are designed to show the worst of people even probably scripted that way. The younger generation then seem to think it is OK to behave in this way, dress in these bits of materials and call it fashion etc. No class, no manners, no social conscience but so quick to judge every body else. Sad world and during this hard time I think it is coming out more and more. Yes there are some wonderful people out there who are selfless but I find them hard to find these days more and more.
I am not looking through rose coloured glasses to the past. It did have a lot more going for it.
Oct 22, 21

I have always said crooks are really dumb. To prove my point, people shoplift and them brag about it on social media. They also break the law in other ways and either brag to their friends and get turned in or involve people in the crime who can't keep their mouths shut. Crime doesn't pay any way you look at it because if someone does get away with it for a while they won't stop when they have enough because they will never have enough.
BLM
The Banking Scandal of 2008 proved how smart criminals are - especially WHITE-COLLAR-CRIMINALS. WHITE-COLLAR-CRIMINALS 'ripped' the world off for trillions of dollars - and 'none' of the money was recovered. However, every government on this planet had to payout trillions of dollars to stabilize CAPITIALISM - or CAPITIALISM will have collapse. Furthermore, in the late 19th century - ROBBER BARONS' stole and looted a country in broad daylight for decades - it is known as USA these days, and ROBBER BARONS are known as OLD MONEY these days. History has proved on numerous occasions that WHITE-COLLAR-CRIMINALS - always get away with the money and NEVER get CAUGHT! Other words - crime pays very WELL - lol!
Dec 09, 24

My trust in Dr's is going down. Do you trust them? Lately they just seem to push unnecessary medication/pills when in reality all I had to do was take up exercise and change my diet
BLM
All doctors are not created equal. I see a General Practitioner (GP). I completely trust my General Practitioner. When a health issue that is not part of her in-depth area of medical expertise - she will immediately refer me too the appropriate MD (example: Heart and blood vessels concerns - she will refer me to a Cardiologist - which she has done). Furthermore, she has been my GP for 26 years and counting!
Nov 25, 24

A friend did this: She got a piece of paper and folded it in half and anytime she thought of a reason to have children, she wrote it down on one side. And anytime she thought of a reason not to have children, she would write it on the other. When she had her doubts about not having children, she would look at the list, and it would remind her that the decision she made not to have children was right for her. Any advice? Will I regret not having kids when I get older?
Dee Jay QLD Oz
I won\u2019t comment on whether people should or shouldn\u2019t have children. It\u2019s very much a personal choice. I\u2019m a Baby Boomer, now 66. I still clearly remember the day my in-laws visited, and MIL announced in no uncertain terms that couples who decided not to have children were the most selfish people in the world. I was 25 at the time, and had been married 6 years. We went on to have children, but I was disappointed that she had voiced her view in such a way, and created an \u201cexpectation\u201d in our relationship. Children are everywhere (nieces, nephews, children living in care, neighbours, friends\u2019 children \u2026.. ), you can quite easily have children in your life that aren\u2019t your own, and they are just as special.
Nov 10, 24

I was reading an article today. A travel journalist commented on an elderly couple walking arm in arm along the streets of a country town. He described this as an example of "enduring love" or "mobility support". Why are some people sceptical about affection between elderly people? I like to think that in an ideal world, there should be no age barrier to people showing affection to one another. What are your thoughts on this issue?
writerrochelle
"Elderly" is such an ugly way of describing Senior Citizens. I'm 76 years old, and I have the "heart" of a 16 year old. I'm still compassionate and caring, lively and loving, thoughtful and thrifty, and I have empathy and humility. I was a good kid, and now I'm a good "Baby Boomer". As one grows older in years, our minds stay young, even if our bodies don't and, given the chance, I could love someone just as much now, if not more, than I did when I was young! ;-D
Sep 20, 24

My son went down to his Australian bank today to withdraw $7,000 in cash....they asked him what he needed the money for (whose money is it?) and then told him that they didn't hold a lot of currency...and that if he needed to withdraw more than $4,000 he would need to make an appointment...he got the money out of them in the end...after a struggle.....is this the new normal for Banks?
Neo
They all do that now. What was considered a little bit of money is now considered lots. They are just abiding by cash laws which compels them to report suspicious transactions.
By law any transaction that is considered suspicious can be reported even if it is below $10000.
It is no longer "your money, Ralph".
Sep 13, 24

Today, everything has become so expensive in all the things that we used to do, that gave us pleasure. Many people must cut back due to not having enough income. When we do finally have a few extra pennies in our wallets & you finally decide to take yourself or your family for a night out. It is fun & enjoyable on occasions to enjoy the experience & being served by someone else for once. Why is it at the end of the meal it can be spoilt by a staff member mind you who is...
David137
Tipping or giving tips over here in New Zealand, is not considered a common thing. It's belongs as part of the america culture, & over in the US. Sure if some people wish to tip alright, not for me. They'll see I like their business if they get repeat business from me or not.
Jul 28, 24

In this day and age, so many things have changed. Children's lives are so different from what mine was in the 50s and 60s. I can't even relate to their lives. Because the world is so different, children need to learn things that I never needed to know. What do you think we need to teach our children for them to be the best they can be in this modern world?
Len G
Like the Aretha Franklin dong said RESPECT. I have seen children are severely lacking in that department
Jun 19, 24

John Cleese recently pointed out that anyone who is REALLY good at what they do appear to think that only about 10 to 20% of all the other people who do that job are really any good ... be it doctors, plumbers, scientists, nurses, surgeons or chefs. If so, that is pretty scary. What do you think? Is that right in areas you have worked in?
BLM
One, who is John Cleese....Two, my jobs called for civil service written exams based on experience or school - high school or college. Three, you had to score in the high nineties out of a hundred score - scoring a hundred was a perfect score. Four, the incompetents were weaved out - during civil service written exams. Five, over ninety-nine percentage of all the other people who do my job were really good. Last, over hundred thousand people who still do my job are still good at it!
Jul 07, 24

I have just acquired four-step grandchildren. Their father is a major part of their lives, seeing them every week. I live in another state and will probably only see them once or twice a year. I am not sure how to go about this. Should I be buying them birthday and Christmas gifts? They are pretty spoilt children, courtesy of wonderful grandparents, who do so much for them and absolutely adore them.
Bugalugs
Drop the "Step" tag. Treat then as if they are your own biological grandchildren. They may not be of your blood but they are still your grandchildren.
Jun 08, 24

If someone wrongs you, no matter how, do you seek vengeance, pay them back, or get them however you can, to satisfy your wrongdoing or do you turn the other cheek, forgive them, and move on with your life?
CteDimples
Probably will turn the other cheek and forgive but will always be cautious and things between us will never be the same again!
May 19, 24

Taking care of the species we have on the Earth makes sense...bio diversity is important....but bringing back things that were extinct...originally by back breeding...and now by science...does that make any sense?...we have evolution...these creatures do not belong here...aren't we just playing God when there are so many more important things we could be fixing? (and spending the money on)
BLM
By 'wanton' killing off of other species on this planet - most famous example is the dodo bird - we/humans have been playing GOD for centuries! If evolution actual works, then humans will permanently disappear from the planet - one day. Which will give other species the opportunity to thrive and the planet time to heal itself!
May 13, 24

In some cases, though, a relationship might not have the potential to be rekindled. In these instances, it can be healthier for each partner to focus on themselves and move on. A lost love may return, but only if both partners are ready and willing for that love to return and the relationship to continue. What are your thoughts? Can lost love ever come back?
Susan KTC
We all have individual lessons to learn in our life journey and sometimes it just isn\u2019t the right time for a relationship, and as noted by several of you, love can be rekindled. My circumstances were different, I found my life time partner in my early 50\u2019s, after several learning lesson experiences and two children, once those relationships ended, there was no going back!
Feb 28, 24

I don t play any gaming on the internet Except for games on Rewardia. I got two accounts on my bank statement for $99.50 they were subscriptions to Gaming sites My banking online has now been shut down and my debit card destroyed while they investigate. I really don t feel safe. Now very time I m online Is this going to be a regular problem ? Or will someone come up with a solution?
BLM
Scammers are white-collar-criminals. White-collar-criminals ARE NOT severely punished as blue-collar-criminals in the USA (where I reside)! Are scammers going to be a regular problem going forward - YES (there are numerous ways to get anyone personal data)! The only person who can make it more difficult - for scammers to steal your money - is you. I do not use credit cards or my bank's debit card to pay bills online or offline. I do not use my bank's checks (since your account number and routing number is at the bottom of the checks - which is all the info a scammer needs to hack your bank account). I pay all my bills by USPS's money orders which are expensive - but they come with two receipts. I use cash for daily purchases. My credit score sucks - because I don't have any debt - but I have never been scammed/hacked (it
is a constant juggling act to keep your monetary info security). Furthermore, I have a landline phone with twenty-first century technology but does not have an internet connection - my landline phone cannot be hacked! Other words, you have to make your digital footprints as small as possible - so a scammer will not (hopeful) notice your digital footprints online or offline.
Feb 09, 24

Humans are, by nature, social animals. That's why we care what others think of us: We want to belong, to be accepted, and to bond with other members of our social "pack." Caring about other people's opinions of us is a survival mechanism as old as humanity itself. I'm very curious about your thoughts. Well ... what do YOU care about?
Angie
The older I get, the less I care about what other people think of me! I care about the health, happiness and safety of my daughter, myself and our animals
Feb 06, 24

The person who means more to you than anything else in the world, drops a bombshell on you... they're moving away - out of town... away from you. They're wanting to travel the world or have met someone who has asked to join them in another country/state, or they've been offered a new job opportunity., or they've just come to a stage in their lives where they're keen to explore new horizons... without you. How do you cope with the loss of no more daily contact (i.e. you...
JANN R
I would say to them go for it I am always with you as your friend have a good time and enjoy your new life I will always be your friend no matter what you do
Dec 29, 23

The last few weeks, I have been in discussion with a tradie with regards to removing trees and moving a shed to the back fence. We had not finalised anything because of the situation of the shed. The next time I talk to him, he tells me he went on my property and chopped all my trees and moved the shed slightly which is not what we had discussed. The shed was to go at the back. They never gave me the date or when they could do the job. It was never finalised. They...
Hohum
It seems the tradie merely quoted and had not been given the go ahead.
If there was no agreed price, I certainly wouldn't pay. from the facts you've given there was never a contract, verbal or otherwise.
Nov 12, 23

My mum was a shorthand typist at Dunedin hospital She also worked on the telephone exchange then she became a bank teller which will probably become a thing of the past soon too My grandfather worked on the railways in the King country and enjoyed reminiscing his young days What job titles do you know of that don't exist in 2021
Elizabeth J 447888
What about the dunny man, before the days of sewerage. Yes, I am that old. I have a faint memory only of those days. The man who used to bring ice for ice chests in the days before refrigerators.
Oct 13, 21

NZ had recently General elections. Turns out, similar as previous years, not everyone go to vote. Yet there are lots of people who complain afterwards. I always say election is the time when people actually do have a 'voice' and might be able to make a difference in their country, but about 20 to 25% will choose not to vote. I bet those are the people who complain the most. Do you think elections really should be compulsory or leave the citizens the option to choose?
Granny2026
No voting should not be made compulsory. People should be allowed to chose.Wether to vote or not. If they don't vote they shouldn't complain
Oct 22, 23

We have all heard that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. What did you have for breakfast? Did you eat at home, at school, at work, in the car, in a restaurant, where? What part of the world do you live in? Is your breakfast a typical breakfast in your part of the world?
Lynn
Let's not. Only joking. I cannot do breakfast however the amazing part is when on holidays and away from home that is the first thing I have. Go figure!
Oct 18, 23

With the cost of living being so much more higher these days, what's a good (or realistic) amount of extra curricular activities kids should be doing, or how much are people spending or willing to spend of said activities? (Sport, music instruments etc)
Spotty
We go hiking and often see parents take the children of all ages hiking. It is a great family time and extra curricular activities for them
Sep 26, 23

I have wondered what the reasons behind why I meet more women who start menopause younger and younger. I started just after turning 30. It seems that there is more to this hormonal change in our community of women than meets the eye. Wondering if our meat we are consuming are filled with growth hormones given to the animals before they reach out supermarkets and how it is affecting us in the long run.
APB
Fertility in both males and females is dropping at a quite surprising rate...it might even be as high 5% or more per generation...I suspect the planet has had enough of us....
Sep 18, 22

This is the most controversial topic. One like dogs and the other like cats. Or both? It seems like no one can win, but so many people have their own opinions!
Christine M 323842
Like them all except for the ones that people dress up in stupid clothes and carry around in handbags.
Sep 10, 23

I have struggled to: 'squeeze whilst pushing down AND turning' a toilet cleaner lid, that once finally off, I left off! What do you think are the worst 'childproof' lids to get off / containers to get into?
Andrew C 287196
Not "child proof", but the tin cans with the pull tab lids are often extremely difficult to open. :-(
Mar 12, 23

I have started watching the paranormal shows on television. Not sure if I believe, but it is entertaining. Have you ever seen a ghost, spirit, shadow person, etc.? Have you ever had a paranormal experience?
Therese M 73305
Most definitely I have photos with orbs and faces in them I get the smell of my sons after shave from time to time. I here them walking around at night . My lights flicker and my music plays up often it gives me great comfort knowing my dad and boys still are around and I know I'll be with them all one day
Jun 08, 23

Often we hear from others like: "I will be happy if I have some certain amount of money". Well, some amount can give us a comfortable life, but does it make us happier? If we had all the money I wanted, how would it be? Let's see at least three of the pros and cons: Pros: Money is monumental work that keeps me busy and productive. Money allows me to buy something I always wanted but could not afford. Money brings respect in society. Cons:Lack of family...
block head
Money makes everyone happy. If you have any spare, I am only too happy to take it.!!!
Will give it a good home.
Mar 19, 23

Always a family favourite topic is the one of the child with the unusual arrival into this world Some are genuinely scary but have a great outcome, thankfully ! I was 2 weeks overdue, which my mother was not pleased about so impatiently she decided to take some cod liver oil followed by a hot bath... Said to bring on labour, which indeed it certainly did! As the hospital was down the rd, she decided to walk. Middle of the night, raining, she was squirming in...
BLM
Because of racial segregation (DEEP SOUTH) - I was born in my parents' house - Blacks (AT THAT TIME) could not use the local hospitals (WELCOME TO AMERICA). It was touch-and-go for two weeks (MY MOTHER HAD TO PERFORM A CESAREAN SECTION OPERATION ON HERSELF) - obvious - my mother and me - survive the ordeal!
Jan 13, 23

People are always fond of hearing the word being rich or becoming rich. So, for us to be rich, we need to have a lot of wealth. But, the question is, how much wealth do we need to be rich? The answer is different for everyone, and it really depends on your lifestyle and needs. Some people are happy with two cars and an apartment in an expensive neighbourhood while others want a private jet and a villa in Monaco. So how does one become rich? The answer is...
Tom S Qld
When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost.
Everything in moderation, and there's a perfect balance in this life if we can find it.
Jan 01, 23

Every time I check the balance of my retirement savings and kiwi-saver, they are heading south. I am over retirement age but still working, so find the current situation very distressing. Don't own a home and honestly wonder if I will ever be able to afford to retire. Considering closing my kiwi-saver and other retirement schemes and putting the money into a bank deposit account where it at least eRn something What are other people's thoughts?
Glenystas
After reading some of the comments below, makes me realise How lucky I am. We own our home, I have a Dept of Vet Affairs pension, Hubby is currently on jobseeker kind of payment but is experiencing ill health (nothing major). We don't drink or smoke, we enjoy a few hobbies: I love crafts like knitting (make some presents or sell items) we both like reading (library) He is into golf (Budget allows a regular game) He likes jigsaws... had so many and they didn't sell on marketplace so we have started up a jigsaw exchange at a local hall. I guess that retirement comes down to if you are self funded or if you can manage on pension, have a good budget and stick to it.
Oct 29, 22

The main difference is you cannot have one without the other. Kindness simply proceeds in Gratitude, they both go hand in hand. How do you practice Kindness and Gratitude? Notice good things, look for them, and appreciate them. Always express gratitude, write it down or thank someone.
Bugalugs
In an ideal world Kindness would always be followed by Gratitude. In today's "ME First. Last and Always" world, Kindness is not always followed by even an acknowledgement - a simple "Thank You" is enough. If you are a Male, try opening a door, or standing aside to let heavily laden woman in/out and the best you might get is a snarl or verbally abused for being condescending!
Oct 08, 22

I have a very unpopular hobby that is not appreciated. I like to take pictures, but I'm not even a photographer. I just like to take pictures. My original interest is to like to draw, but then I like to take pictures. It can also express fine arts. But when I tell others that I can take pictures, but others will laugh, who can't take pictures? Everyone takes pictures, right? But I'll go and study the composition of the photo, etc. I feel relaxed when I take pictures, I...
DocR
I build stone walls as a hobby - all over my property - some are structural, retaining walls and such, some are purely decorative, fantasies… my whole family thinks I’m crazy.
Sep 02, 22

I work in retail. I love my job because I am the last person the customer sees before they leave the store. I think we should always be kind to one another because everyone is fighting a battle that we don t know. So if we can make a difference in someone s day, that s what life should be about
Bugalugs
A smile costs nothing so why not use them?
What I find Most Annoying are those customers who pay no attention whatsoever to the person serving them - particularly in Supermarkets. These Female & Male louts spend the entire time on their damned mobile phones - discussing, Sandra C, Their Private Lives, they make no attempt to respond to the Check-out operator, when the goods are put through they wave their phones over the eftpos terminal, wait long enough to see if their payment has been accepted (when not they blame the store staff & seem to think they are responsible for their credit/debit card being maxed out) then they simply walk away. No Smile. Most certainly NO "Thank You". It is the Customers who are so often extremely rude and if the indifference we sometime experience (it disappears when we speak with then thank & smile) irks then maybe we should remember those Serving us are Real People and it is as a direct result of OUR Indifference to them which makes them indifferent to us!
One of the Most soul-destroying jobs and one of the lowest paid ones, are those unfortunate Women and Men who spend their day swiping goods past a scanner in our Supermarkets.
Give them a Smile, Say "Hullo", "Good Morning/Afternoon" and Thank them for their Service - they do appreciate it and will respond in a Friendly way.
Aug 11, 22

I remember a time not so long ago where many went to work with a box of tissues and continued working, does anyone think this will ever happen again?
Pongo
I’ve never had a day off in my life when I had a cold. Now I’m retired a cold never stops me doing what I want to do
Jun 16, 22
| Forum Menu |







